Author Archives: Lorraine

Pay it forward and feed your kids’ friends

Because of geography, our rec room is often the central meeting place for the boys and their friends. They use it as a base to go out from, or more often than not, they just crash here for the evening. … Continue reading

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Why I won’t snoop on my kids, or anyone else

“There’s a letter here for you,” I told Christopher. “Open it.” “Noooooooo. I can’t.” I legally can’t, but I also physically can’t. Under Section 48 of the Canada Post Corporation’s Act, it is illegal to open someone else’s mail. I … Continue reading

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If I start packing now, I’ll be done in two years

When I bought this house from my parents, Dad had already been in care for a year, and Mom did the smartest kind of move, ever: she simply selected the things she wanted to take to her new place and … Continue reading

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Going to the dogs one babysitting gig at a time

I am babysitting. Well, dogsitting, to be more exact. When Christopher and Pammy moved out last fall, they took Alfie with them. Alfie is the tiny rat terrier Chihuahua that looks like Yoda. We like to say he has oodles … Continue reading

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Normal people are worried about what their kids post on the Internet

For any of my longtime readers, you’ll know two years ago I underwent a prophylactic double mastectomy, documented in two Motherlode columns in May 2014. It’s been a long road these past two years, with many decisions, many emotions and … Continue reading

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The straight buzz on a hair-raising rite of passage

“Just sit still, I’m sure I can even it up.” — Mom, wielding scissors. There are many milestones that usher you into full-on parenthood, but nothing affirms that arrival quite like the rite of passage sure to scar every child: … Continue reading

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We shall come rejoicing, bringing in the chives

I didn’t pull the yard in the fall, and I knew the spring cleanup was going to be beastly. I told Ari and Taryn I needed a couple hours from both of them, which they promptly agreed to. “We’ll be … Continue reading

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A miscarriage is not a disability

Is a miscarriage a disability? A recent ruling by the Human Rights Tribunal of Ontario says it is. A Toronto woman was fired from her job after suffering a major depressive episode she says was triggered by a miscarriage and … Continue reading

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Catfished by cats; judging kittens when they’re sleeping

We’re told not to judge a book by its cover. We may mentally understand the concept, but we are emotional infants when it comes to pretty, shiny or in my case, adorable, things. When I lost Maggie just over a … Continue reading

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The sandwich generation: maybe not what you think

“Can we stop at Canadian Tire? I want to buy a sandwich maker,” said Ari, 21. I sighed quietly. I already can’t see my kitchen counters for two reasons: I have almost no counter space, and what I do have … Continue reading

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