Author Archives: Lorraine

When the readers do the writing – this one’s for you, Katie

A couple of years ago a young woman wrote to me and asked me for advice. Her father had passed away suddenly at a terribly young age; she was pregnant and her question to me was as raw and torn … Continue reading

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Fooling around on the most important person in your life

I texted Pammy, Christopher’s girlfriend, to ask if she’d come to the mall with me. I’ve read it is better to take a seasoned guide when you’re going to places that are unfamiliar and possibly dangerous. My request immediately put … Continue reading

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When the cat starts gas-lighting you

I’ve been having time issues lately. Little slipknots in an otherwise linear day, tiny burps that are just enough to make me question my consciousness if not my actual sanity. I do wonder if sometimes the butter is slipping off … Continue reading

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Mom’s keepsake sparks memories of my first boyfriend

Some anniversaries are more bittersweet than others When my mom knew she was dying 16 years ago, she spent a lot of her compromised energy worrying about what would happen to the things she’d spent a lifetime accumulating. Always tidy … Continue reading

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Sorry for being slightly less thrifty than you were, Mom and Dad

At least I feel guilty: on not following the ways of my parents The corner of the kitchen where I work is cold. Old double brick houses aren’t famous for their insulative qualities, especially on the north side. My Dad … Continue reading

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Match.com in the sock wars

When Pammy and Christopher moved out a few months back, I knew what it really meant. It meant I could finally turf through everything they left behind and find all the single socks I knew they were insisting were not … Continue reading

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A tool box to make brownies is just wrong

I heard some disturbing thumps coming from the kitchen, but before I could investigate Ari yelled up the stairs. “What’s vegetable oil?” Not where, but what. “In the lazy Susan. There’s some canola,” I yelled back. “Is canola a vegetable? … Continue reading

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Are you a divorced parent? Stay off Facebook this holiday

If you’re divorced with kids, watch what you post on social media this Christmas. Consider this: most custody arrangements have children alternating holidays with their parents. It’s fair, it’s right and it’s hard. But if your kids are with your … Continue reading

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Socks, underwear … and a man-sized cheese grater

Pammy and Christopher moved out a couple of months ago. I’ve seen or spoken to Pammy most days, and she still brings Alfie around to visit. As dogs go, he isn’t very robust and has to wear a parka to … Continue reading

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Standardized testing at its best and worst

Did you ever fill in the bubbles carelessly? When I spied the “careless bubble” headline on a science site, I knew instantly what it meant. Those tests they make kids take by filling in endless lines of bubbles. I asked … Continue reading

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